Thursday, January 3, 2013

The transfer is scheduled for February 8, 2013!

I'll make this post somewhat short because I'm getting ready to head to the RE's office for injects training and to sign consent forms. I got my official calendar yesterday and our transfer is scheduled for February 8, 2013. Having that date makes me so giddy and happy, but it also terrifies me too. The beta will be drawn on Feb 19th, 2013 and I just keep thinking about how that day will be. Will it be full of joyful tears and hugs? Or will I be thrust back into the deepest depths of darkness again? I will be honest with you, I am so terrified about the latter. Of course, being who I am already calculated the estimated due date: October 27, 2013. A Halloween baby. I'm holding onto lots of hope! For those of you that have been through FETs with donor embryos, did you go through periods of extreme optimism then slam back into being terrified of failure? What triggered it for you?

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  1. Godspeed! I think it's only natural to experience both hope and fear. All you can do is pray about it. God will give you the children you're meant to have :)

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  2. We did a transfer in late Oct. with donor embryos.I felt hopeful without this I had a 0 chance of having children.I kept thinking whatever God will allow and how it was all in his hands.I did the medications,labwork etc. We transferred two embryos and now we are expecting twins this July.We have been twice blessed for sure.Here's to all the best with you and your embryos.

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    1. This is very encouraging. Thank you, barb. Congratulations on your twins, how incredible.

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  3. I don't know if you've read my story or not but we had 2 failed FETs in 2010. I was devastated after the first one but was so optimistic about the next one because I knew God had led us to EA for a reason. I truly believed we were going to grow our family that way. For that reason, I barely entertained the thought of it not working the 2nd time. I can't tell you how confused and upset we were after receiving our negative beta. Even through the pain, though, I was still optimistic that it would work for us as we were planning a 3rd attempt. Ultimately, God changed the course for us and we ended up adopting our daughter that next spring. (She was conceived around the time of our 1st transfer- totally a God thing!) You have to hold onto hope and trust God's plan. Even if it doesn't turn out the way you hope, He still has a plan for you and for growing your family. (Jeremiah 29:11)

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  4. I think with any fertility treatments, you experience a rollercoaster of emotions. I know it happened for me with IUI and IVF... I would go from sure it would work to sure it wouldn't, and back again in mere minutes. I think it's inevitable. All I can say is try to work through the negative feelings, and focus on the positive ones. :)

    I am so so so so very excited for you!! <3

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    1. Infertility is the biggest mind game ever! I know exactly what you mean. I'm back in the "it's gonna work" camp today. Let's hope that sticks because I like being optimistic far more than I like being afraid.

      I appreciate your support soooo much! I still can't believe you and I have been through this virtually together since the old days of TTGP. Back then, who knew we'd end up here? *sigh*

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  5. Wonderful news! We are a month behind y'all! We go to for our mock transfer in Feb and our FET in March! I look forward to following you. Please feel free to jump in and follow us if you want. We are on our 2nd EA. Our Sarah is 15 months old. We adopted her and her siblings as embryos through the Nightlight Snowflakes program. We are doing the same currently. Excited for you!

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    1. How exciting!You have such a beautiful family! I will cross my fingers for you. *hugs*

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  6. That's amazing news! Feb. 8 is my BFF's Becky's birthday so it's already a lucky day. Fingers crossed that everything goes smoothly.

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    1. Thanks, Candace! Feb 8 is going to be such a crazy emotion-filled day. That's for sure.

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  7. Very exciting! We will be less than ten days apart! I feel the same way- with the extreme excitement also came the extream realization that it might not work! Scary! I am trying to balance the optimism with reality. Doing a single embryo transfer with de has about a 70% success rate at our clinic. Great but not a guarentee. Trying to stay calm and I hope the same for you!

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    1. I am following your story closely, that's great that we are almost "cycle buddies." I am cheering you on - 2013 is going to be the year!

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