To help pass time, I've been daydreaming about traditional adoption. Kevin and I looked at success stories online and talked a lot about how it would feel for us to be one of those stories. I even called a few places yesterday morning to get information to help us figure out what the right steps to take for us . After loads of research, I think we feel most comfortable using an adoption consultant, applying to multiple agencies through that consultant, and pursuing trans-racial adoption. I am so excited about the hopes for our future family. Of course, I have hope for the next FET too, but it's hard to feel excited about it after the devastating blows we've endured. I did the math, and barring any unexpected delays, I expect to have the next FET around Thanksgiving time. This means we should be learning of the outcome in early-December. If it succeeds, it will be a wonderful Christmas present. But if it fails, we will be ready to jump on the domestic infant adoption path right at the beginning of the new year.
However God leads us to our family, we will follow. Our babies are waiting to come, and I have no idea what skin color, eye color, or hair color they will have, but God has a plan in store for us. Love is what makes a family.
Update: My beta came back at 6.
I couldn't agree with you more! I sometimes had to remind myself that there really was a certain time my children were supposed to enter my life. Knowing that even a month prior wouldn't have yielded the children I have now make the wait worth it.
ReplyDeleteThat's very true!
DeleteIt was a hard choice for me to move on after our failed FET, but now that we are halfway through the adoption process I'm so glad we did. I have no regrets and it's an exciting adventure.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad to hear you say that. :) I really hope you are matched soon and can have your forever family through adoption.
DeleteSending you a big hug. You are such a strong lady. Wishing you nothing but the best.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Trush. I appreciate it!
DeleteWhen we were going through round after round of IUI and then IVF and miscarriage....I started actively researching adoption. We had our irons in many fires. And then on our hail mary IVF, I got pregnant...but just was not ready to believe it was for real (after a loss of twins at 10 weeks and a chemical pregnancy)....but I did not want to slow my progress..,.so I was attending adoption seminars and meeting with agencies all the up until I was about 11-12 weeks pregnant with our son. I just needed to know I was actively trying to build our family and had back up plans. And then...when we were wanting a 2nd child...we were going through the foster adopt program and taking all the classes and getting our homestudy started when I discovered embryo adoption. I continued to go through all the foster adopt (a very long process) program even when we had been matched with embryos and were on the calendar for an FET. I did not completely abandon that process until we were pregnant again (and knowing I still had more embryos on ice). We were fortunate, we got pregnant the first time with EA .... so I totally support parallel processes. I think it is necessary to stay sane and not spiral into the emotional black hole that infertilty and TTC can do to a person/couple. I would encourage you to get as far as you can in the process without actually spending any money all while still persuing EA. Good luck Liz.....you have coped amazingly well in the past several months that have been very very hard.
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I'm glad to hear you say that! I want to believe the next FET will work but I'm only going to survive by having a solid plan B. The only reason I think I am coping so well is knowing that there is another option at the end of this path. I'm glad you found success but it does make me feel less crazy to hear you share your story! thank you so much.
DeleteI love how hopeful and positive you are. I am praying for the best possible outcome for you, whatever that may be!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! I appreciate the prayers.
DeleteLove is what makes a family!
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It sure is! thank you! :)
DeleteYou really are a strong lady and are handling this so well. I am impressed with you forward thinking approach. You WILL have a family one way or another. I have no doubt.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the kind words. I have to keep thinking ahead or I'll need to be institutionalized. I know we will have a family too - one way or another. Or I swear I'll die trying. :)
DeleteYou will forever have my support. ((hugs))
ReplyDeleteThank you, Jalara. That is very nice of you. I am so sorry about the recent events in Russia. You are in my prayers.
DeleteYou guys are going to be wonderful parents however that happens! You are so ready to love your child! It will happen!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! We already love our future children so much, and we don't even know them yet. :)
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